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Intimate relationships exists between boyfriends and girlfriends, romantic partners, lovers or husbands and wives. Intimate partner violence can take many forms, including different types of abuse, stalking and harassment. When intimate partner violence involves physical abuse, it may include hitting, punching or kicking. Emotional abuse between intimate partners may be harder to spot, but it includes name-calling, yelling or humiliating a partner. Emotional abuse can also include trying to control a partner by telling the other person what they can or cannot do and where they can or cannot go. Financial abuse in an intimate relationship may mean that one partner controls the other partner’s access to money, which could include keeping money from a partner or keeping them from working to make their own money. Intimate partner violence may also include stalking a partner—following them wherever they go and refusing to leave—or harassing them in person or by sending harassing texts, emails or posts. Intimate partner violence can also include sexual abuse—forcing a partner to engage in sexual behaviors without their permission. When two people are in a relationship, they still have to respect one another’s boundaries and ask for and receive consent for all sexual behaviors. Regardless of what form intimate partner violence takes, it is meant to control a partner in a relationship, and it is never okay. Intimate partner violence is never the fault of the person being abused. A person who really cares about you will never try to physically harm you, control you, force you to do something you don’t want to do or make you feel bad about yourself. A person who truly cares for you will honor and respect you. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, talk to a trusted adult, like a parent, caretaker, school counselor or therapist. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help at 1-800- 799-7233 or visit TheHotline.org to chat with a counselor. FAQs What does “good/healthy communication” mean in a relationship? Communication is an important part of a healthy relationship. It means being able to tell your partner how you feel, what you need, what you believe and what you want in an open and honest way, without fearing that they may have an unreasonable negative reaction. It also means listening to and understanding your partner’s feelings, needs, beliefs and desires with the same respect you would want from them. My boyfriend is always texting me to find out where I am and what I’m doing. He sometimes gets a little upset if I take too long to respond. I think he does it because he really likes me, but my mom thinks it’s not good. Is there something wrong with him wanting to know where I am? People who care about each other may check in on each other to make sure the other person is okay. But if your partner gets angry at you for not always sharing where you are, that is very controlling behavior. Partners have to trust and respect each other enough to allow each other to have separate interests, hobbies and experiences. That’s what people do when they want what is best for each other. If your partner is trying to control where you go, what you do or who you hang out with talk to a trusted adult about your relationship. You should be physically and emotionally safe and respected in your relationship. Related Videos Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships What Makes A Relationship Healthy? What is Sexual Assault? Consent Maybe Doesn't Mean Yes Saying Yes or No: What Is Consent? Close Close Close Close Close Close Additional Resources Sex, Etc. Kids Health TheHotline.org Parents As adults, we can prepare young people to have healthy relationships by ensuring they can distinguish healthy from unhealthy behaviors and know how to identify intimate partner violence (also known as domestic violence or teen dating violence). If and when young people feel ready to get into relationships, they should know that healthy relationships include open and honest communication, trust, physical and emotional safety and respect. It is also important that we talk with young people about intimate partner violence, so they do not mistake the controlling behaviors of intimate partner violence for love. Intimate partner violence can take many forms, including abuse, stalking and harassment. Physical abuse between intimate partners may include hitting, punching or kicking. Emotional abuse involves belittling and humiliating a partner with name-calling and yelling as well as trying to control a partner by telling the other person what they can or cannot do and where they can or cannot go. While this type of intimate partner violence does not leave any physical evidence, it is just as harmful as physical abuse. Financial abuse in an intimate relationship includes controlling a partner’s access to money, which could include keeping money from a partner or keeping them from working to make their own money. Intimate partner violence may also include stalking a partner—following them wherever they go and refusing to leave—or harassing them in person or by sending harassing texts, emails or posts. Intimate partner violence can also include sexual abuse—forcing a partner to engage in sexual behaviors without consent. It is important that young people understand that even if two people are in a relationship, they should ask for and receive consent before engaging in any sexual behaviors with their partner. Regardless of what form intimate partner violence takes, young people should know that it is never okay, and intimate partner violence is never the fault of the person being abused. Make sure your children and the young people in your care know that they can come to you or another trusted adult, like a school counselor or therapist, if they need help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 or visit TheHotline.org to chat with a counselor. CONVERSATION STARTERS While your child may not be dating or looking to get into a relationship right now, there may come a time when they feel that they are ready and want to take this step in their lives. As a parent, being familiar with the qualities of healthy relationships and talking to your child about them can help your child feel more comfortable approaching you with questions about these topics. The easiest way to start these conversations is to talk about issues as they come up in everyday life, like while watching a show or movie together. Here are some ways to start these conversations: While watching a show or movie featuring either healthy or unhealthy relationship behaviors If you are watching a show or movie and there is a scene with either healthy or unhealthy relationship behaviors, you can use this opportunity to start a discussion. Point out what you see, and ask what your child thinks about that. When your child mentions friends or classmates that have romantic partners Have dinner together and talk about what is going on in your tween’s life. When they mention friends or classmates that have romantic partners, you can then use this time to talk about healthy relationship qualities and behaviors. Educators Educators can prepare young people to have healthy relationships by ensuring they can distinguish healthy from unhealthy relationships and know how to identify intimate partner violence (also known as domestic violence or teen dating violence). If and when young people feel ready to get into relationships, they should know that healthy relationships include open and honest communication, trust, physical and emotional safety and respect. It is also important that young people are educated about intimate partner violence, so they do not mistake the controlling behaviors of intimate partner violence for love. Intimate partner violence can take many forms, including different types of abuse, stalking and harassment. Physical abuse between intimate partners may include hitting, punching or kicking. Emotional abuse involves belittling and humiliating a partner with name-calling and yelling as well as trying to control a partner by telling the other person what they can or cannot do and where they can or cannot go. While this type of intimate partner violence does not leave any physical evidence, it is just as harmful as physical abuse. Financial abuse in an intimate relationship includes controlling a partner’s access to money, which could include keeping money from a partner or keeping them from working to make their own money. Intimate partner violence may also include stalking a partner—following them wherever they go and refusing to leave—or harassing them in person or by sending harassing texts, emails or posts. Intimate partner violence can also include sexual abuse—forcing a partner to engage in sexual behaviors without consent. It is important that students understand that even if two people are in a relationship, they should ask for and receive consent before engaging in any sexual behaviors with their partner. Regardless of what form intimate partner violence takes, young people should know that it is never okay, and intimate partner violence is never the fault of the person being abused. Make sure your students know that they can come speak with a school counselor or therapist, if they need help. They should also know about the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and TheHotline.org where they can chat with a counselor. Make sure you are also familiar with the mandatory reporting laws in your state and that you know your responsibility for reporting suspected abuse. Discussion Questions After watching the video with your class, process it using the following discussion questions: What are some examples of intimate partner violence that you saw in the video? Were there any examples of behaviors that you were surprised to learn were forms of intimate partner? If so, what were they? Why is it important for people in relationships to get their partners consent before engaging in any sexual behaviors? What can a person do if the think they might be dealing with intimate partner or teen dating violence? Lesson Plans 8th grade—Lesson 3: Healthy or Unhealthy Relationships 9th Grade—Lesson 1: They Love Me, They Love Me Not Rights, Respect, Responsibility: Warning Signs: Understanding Sexual Abuse and Assault TheHotline.org