εbe lε weyi εyʋ ñinʋ halɩpaɤyε yaa walɩtʋ hᴐlʋyaɤ ? (Kabyè)
Cette vidéo présente une plongée en profondeur dans les étiquettes moins connues de l’orientation sexuelle. Elle commence par définir l’orientation sexuelle, mentionne les termes hétérosexuel, gay et bisexuel, puis définit les termes pansexuel, asexuel (ou as) et démisexuel. [AMZ-058]
Sexual orientation is all about who you’re romantically and sexually attracted to. Some people are attracted to those of a different gender (heterosexual), and some are attracted to those of the same gender (gay or lesbian). Some are attracted people of either the same or a different gender (bisexual), and some people do not experience sexual attraction (asexual), though they may be interested in a romantic relationship. It’s totally normal to have questions about sexual orientation, so it’s okay if you’re wondering about who you are and feel attracted to! Some people know their sexual orientation at a very young age and others don’t know until they are much older.
FAQs
It’s totally normal to have intense attractions during puberty. Your feelings may be so strong that they aren’t necessarily directed toward a particular type of person, or you might only feel attracted only to boys or only to girls. Boys who are attracted to only boys often identify as gay and girls who attracted to only girls often identify as lesbian (or gay). Right now, you may find yourself falling for a classmate or developing a crush on a particular person or people. You may find these experiences pleasurable, troubling, or a mix of the two.
For now, you may not know how to label your romantic and sexual feelings, and you should know there’s no rush to label your feelings or yourself. Just know that it is normal to feel attracted to others. Figuring out your sexual orientation (whether they are gay, lesbian, bi, straight or something else) is a journey, and your attractions may even change over the years or stay the same. Either way it’s okay to feel however you feel.
Understanding your sexual orientation can be confusing. You might feel that you don’t fit into a specific category, and you may notice that you have sexual and romantic feelings for people of your own gender and for people of a different gender. These feelings may mean that eventually you will identify as bisexual, which means someone who is attracted to both girls and boys.
Don’t worry about being unsure for now. Understanding your sexual orientation develops over time, and you should feel no pressure to identify in any particular way.
Yes, of course! You and your feelings are absolutely normal, we have no control over who who we find attractive. Many people are gay, lesbian or bisexual and are comfortable and confident expressing themselves and living happy and healthy romantic and sexual lives as they grow up. At the same time, it can take time to feel clear on our sexual orientation, especially if people around us like parents and peers are not supportive. Be patient with yourself and remember that no matter who you are attracted to it doesn’t matter as long as you are kind and respectful to other people.
“Is there anyone at school you like or are attracted to?” Let them know you are open to hearing about the person or people they have might have a crush on, whether they are girls or boys.
If your child says her friend’s sister or a teacher is getting married, you can say, “That is fantastic! Is she marrying a man or a woman?” Make sure that whatever the gender of the people getting married that it’s important to respect whomever people love.
Gently correct your child. Let them know it’s not okay to use “gay” as a way to put down or demean someone or something. Tell them that if they mean “that’s so stupid,” then they should say that.